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“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” Proverbs 1:7
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INTRODUCTION TO FREEDOM FROM UN FORGIVENESS: Part 1
Forgiveness is something that we all need to be given, and something that we all need to give to others. It is not uncommon in life that we offend or hurt others, or that others hurt or offend us. We most likely all have examples of times we have been offended, and we probably are all familiar with other times that we have offended and hurt others causing them pain. The bible makes it clear that offense will come. The problem is not so much the offense or the hurt as it is our reaction to it.
Being offended and hurt and staying that way can cause all sorts of negative emotions and reactions that can ultimately harm both the offender and the one who was offended. Un forgiveness, anger, rage, hatred, violence bitterness, resentment, thoughts or acts of vengeance are a just a few of the negative reactions to offense or pain caused by others, especially those whom we love deeply. These reactions and emotions, when not properly acknowledged, dealt with, and completely removed can destroy lives, especially the life of the one carrying the offense. Denial of the event(s) that have taken place, their seriousness, or the pain that it caused is not a healthy reaction either. There is a need to acknowledge that someone did something, or did not do something that hurt you. Next we need to acknowledge and admit that this hurt, or wrong doing, did cause pain in our hearts. This acknowledgement and admittance, may or may not need to be done with the offender, but it surely needs to be done with one’s self and to God. One should be as open and honest with yourself and God as you know how to be. Denial has never healed anyone, but the truth is known for setting people free (John 8:32).
WHEN THE PAIN IS REAL AND THE WOUNDS ARE DEEP:
It is not uncommon that the deeper the wound the more difficult it can be for someone to forgive and to be completely free from negative emotions and/or reactions. It is important to point out that everyone who has been offended does not harbor UN forgiveness though. Forgiveness is a choice. It may not always be an easy one, but it is a choice.
Sometimes, however the pain and the wounds can be very deep, and it may be difficult for someone to forgive their offender. For example, people’s family members are raped, children are abused, wives are suddenly abandoned, marriage covenants are broken, and the pain that these types of things cause are very real and require the power of God to forgive and be healed. In these situations it may be harder to forgive than others, however it is not possible. God so faithfully promises us in the bible, “All things are possible through Christ who strengthens us” (Philippians 4:13). This means even forgiving what the world defines as the unforgivable is possible through Christ. So be encouraged in God’s word and trust in His power to forgive through you.
With so much love and so much hope in Jesus Christ,
Founder & Friend
Additional Scriptures to Read and Receive Hope & Wisdom:
Psalm 34:18 “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” New International Version
-Proverbs 20:22 Don’t say, “I will get even for this wrong.”
“Wait for the Lord to handle the matter.” New Living Translation
- John 8:32 “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” New King James Version
-Matthew 6:14 “For if you forgive people their trespasses (their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment), your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Amplified Version
-Philippians 4:13 “I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me (I am ready for anything and equal to anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency).” Amplified Version